Wedding Engagement Rings

For many couples, a diamond ring is simply too expensive to exchange while they are planning their wedding, so they exchange wedding engagement rings instead. As a cost-effective and symbolic alternative, some couples choose to exchange wedding bands during their engagement, waiting until the ceremony to introduce a gemstone ring. Another alternative is to purchase a bridal set that includes matching wedding and engagement rings, often at a lower cost than if purchased separately.

Engagement Ring Costs

A woman’s diamond engagement ring may cost from $200 to well over $5,000, depending on the size and quality of the diamonds, the style of the ring, and the type of metal. A simple wedding band, however, may cost significantly less, even under $100, especially if it is a classic design without any gemstones. Most engagements last between twelve and eighteen months, during which time the couple can budget appropriately for a more expensive diamond ring to accompany the wedding ceremony.

What Kind of Ring?

Did you know you don't even need to buy a diamond ring? While diamonds are the traditional stone for a wedding engagement ring, any stone is acceptable. If you know your fiancée’s tastes, you know what kind of ring to purchase. A simple woman might not want more than a gold band with a single stone. Someone who prefers her jewelry with a pattern might enjoy wearing a ring that's a bit more ornate. The key is to have a ring that will reflect the bride's taste. If you're not sure of this, recruit a friend or family member to rummage through her jewelry box or give you a clue. You'll probably want to find out her ring size as well. You can find out her ring size by wrapping a string or piece of paper around her ring finger (remember - it is the finger in between the middle finger and pinky on the left hand). You can measure her finger discreetly by making a game out of it or measuring it while she is asleep or distracted.

If you're unsure of style and feel your betrothed is the one to best make this decision, or if she's already said "yes," you can take her with you. You can also purchase just the stone ahead of time and let her choose the setting.

Choosing the Right Wedding Engagement Rings

By giving a simple band as an engagement ring and saving the more elaborate diamond ring for the wedding ceremony, it is easy to match the ring to the woman’s preferences. No longer does the ring need to be a surprise, and the couple can work together to decide an appropriate budget for such a major investment. The woman can also select her preferred setting, style, and cut without fear of seeming aggressive or pushy in the relationship. The couple can shop together at different stores, including antique and pawn shops, and can investigate different types of rings such as colored gems, Pearl Engagement Rings, or other unique rings.

Symbolic Significance

For many couples, the engagement is a trial period before the wedding as they work together planning the event and discussing their future. By using a simple band during that time rather than a flashier ring, they symbolize their commitment to the relationship on a deeper level than what they can purchase for one another. The more expensive ring is then a symbol of the actual ceremony, the event they’ve planned for months and the beginning of their life together. That truly is an event worth a greater investment than simply a promise to join together.

Heirlooms

Perhaps a grandparent or special relative has a ring that's been put away to give to a special person. It doesn't hurt to ask. In all probability, your relative will be touched you'd like to give the special person in your life such a cherished family possession.

Bridal Sets

Another alternative to a traditional diamond engagement ring is to purchase a bridal set. These two rings are matched together and can often be found for a less expensive total than if the rings are purchased separately. Different styles of bridal sets are available, from simple bands with Diamond Solitaire Engagement Rings to elaborate designs with different stone sizes and shapes. Some bridal sets also include the man's wedding band, insuring that all three rings match.

One drawback to elaborate bridal sets is that the wedding band often cannot be worn without the engagement ring, since the two may be patterned to wrap around one another. This prevents the band from being given as an engagement ring, and usually the two pieces must be professionally soldered together before the ceremony, meaning that the woman must be without either ring for some time before the event. For many couples, however, this is an attractive type of ring that represents a significant savings over traditional rings.

Warnings About Wedding Engagement Rings

While giving a wedding engagement ring in place of a traditional diamond engagement ring may seem to be a practical and cost-effective alternative, it is important to consider the woman’s wishes before making such a decision. If she values customs and traditions, such a departure may not be welcome. Furthermore, family and friends may misinterpret the nontraditional engagement ring to mean that you’ve already eloped or otherwise moved ahead without including them. If you do choose to use a wedding band in place of an engagement ring, it may be wise to offer an explanation for doing so in order to avoid hurt feelings and awkward situations.

Where to Shop for Wedding Engagement Rings

When it comes to things like wedding engagement rings, you get what you pay for. If you visit a chain famous for selling inexpensive jewelry, you might not find much in the way of quality diamonds. Visiting a store specializing in fine jewelry will ensure you of a better quality wedding engagement ring.

Shops such as Tiffany's (http://www.tiffany.com/) or Harry Winston (http://www.harry-winston.com/loader.html) are famous choices, but not everyone has a Tiffany's in their neighborhood. These stores can be a little pricey as well. The point is Tiffany's has a good reputation. You want to shop for a wedding engagement ring at a shop that cares about its good name.

The important thing to remember is that this shouldn't be a stressful decision. If you're unsure of the type of wedding engagement ring to purchase, take the bride to be along with you. She'll be thrilled to pick out her own diamond and you'll know she's getting a ring that suits her.